The kids don't really believe I can be Mean Mommy. Usually I'm not. Like a lot of families, the Father's voice is a bit scarier--has more heft to it and the kids seem to respond more quickly to it. Also, I parent by mood...and this isn't something I'm really proud of. Good mood--Go ahead--jump on the beds. Bad mood--What did I tell you about jumping on the beds?
I have decided Mean Mommy needs to assert herself more...I have instituted more chores. I have made and carried out more threats. I have deepened and sharpened my voice so that I can mimic the boom of a man's voice. I don't want spoiled children, whiny children, children who think they can manipulate their way by giving me kisses (altho I still gotta build resistance to this one). It is hard. I like being the "soft" one. But is is terribly unfair to my husband, who always has to play the bad guy role.
I am trying. Any suggestions?